My Fundraising Page

My Fundraising Page
Dec 02, 2008 by Gerrard Southam

Several years ago I lost a friend. ..

My friend was a smart guy and a good mate. At the time we were both awkward young men, we shared a deep love of all things geeky. His family was from Turkey, his father was a wealthy man and ran a successful rug sales business. He loved his son very deeply and would give him anything he wanted. But there was one thing his father could not buy for him. Because my friend, Sancar (San-Jar) Kavvas was very, very sick.

I don't think I ever really understood. I never really understood how he has such bottomless pockets, or how he could afford to buy part of our favourite local comic store. I also never really understood how sick he was. He never really complained about the painful treatments he was getting or his hair loss or how his weight would go up and down. He flew around the world, he had some of the best and most cutting edge treatments available, yet it was still not enough. This was the first time I'd ever encountered someone with Leukemia.

I thought he was kinda lucky getting all this travel and being able to buy all this stuff. But he would have gladly traded it all to run around in the garden with us, swatting each other with newspaper swords.

He didn't want us to see him weaken. He fought hard. He did is best to live the time he had to the fullest, running a business, working full time, he even fell in love.

He shyed away from his friends as his health failed. He stopped returning my calls and he traveled far away for further treatment. One day a got a teary phone-call from a mutual friend. Sancar had lost his battle with Leukemia.

I remember feeling guilty calling his family. That I might be bothering them in their grief. That I hadn't really been beside him through the worst of it. Yet they wanted me to come and I was honoured enough to be one of the pallbearers. Afterwards we joined his family at their lavish home. His father was greatful to hear stories of his son's antics and he asked me a question.

"There is something I never understood about son" His father asked me. "I've never understood this thing with the Comics."

Sancar had one of the largest Comic collections I'd ever seen, a whole room pilled high with boxes. He was a huge fan of the X-Men and even let me hold a copy of the rare and first issue.

"Well..." I said "All those comics, all those stories are about heroes... and these heroes fight to protect a world that fears and hates them. Not everyone understands them, some people very are afraid of them. They fight for a dream that might be impossible. But that doesn't stop them... they fight for that dream anyway... It doesn't matter what the odds are... you keep fighting."

His father teared up slightly and nodded. I felt I had been able to give him a window into the life of his son. I felt I'd been able to help fight the battle.

There are lots of stories like mine and people who's lives have been touched by cancer. I was never a physical kid growing up, but in the last year and a half I've been changing that and fully engaging in the world. I am running the Lavaman triatholan not just for my friend, but for people like him. People who still fight this terrible illness. Now the treatments available are much stronger and less painful the were almost a decade ago when I lost my friend. I would like you to support me on this run. Anything you can give would be greatly appricated.

Sometimes it's important to help... even if it's just a little piece. To remember that we can all be heroes.

Please make a donation to support my participation in Team In Training and help advance LLS's mission.

I hope you will visit my web site often. Be sure to check back frequently to see my progress. Thanks for your support!


My Fundraising Total

Raised: $5,375.00 | Goal: $5,500.00
98 %

Make a Donation

We are sorry donations are no longer being accepted for this participant for this event.

My Thanks To

Barry Southam $1000.00
The Third Floor, Inc. $500.00
Felix Jorge $250.00
Christine Costley $250.00
haylee vance $150.00
christine costley $100.00
Andreas Hikel $100.00
matthew bauer $100.00
John McInnis $100.00
haylee vance $100.00
Jakub Mares $100.00
Anonymous $100.00
Gerrard Southam $100.00
Michael Vosburg $50.00
Joshua Campbell $50.00
hunter athey $50.00
joseph jones $50.00
Benjamin Nightingale $50.00
Markus Daum $50.00
Shannon Pytlak $50.00
David Aguilar $50.00
Mark Moretti $50.00
Richard Soriano $50.00
Patrick Gehlen $50.00
Camille Santochi $50.00
Elliott $50.00
ben hochstein $50.00
Jamie Costley $50.00
el Senor Chupcabra con QU... $50.00
Gerrard Southam $40.00
Khanh Ho $40.00
Jay OBalles $40.00
Greg Booth $40.00
Pfizer $25.00
Setal Patel $25.00
andrew silke $25.00
Austin Bonang $25.00
Kate McDaniel $25.00
adam vega $25.00
doumkham bounsouk $25.00
doumkham bounsouk $25.00
John Cronin $25.00
Kyle $25.00
Aneurin Warburton $25.00
Michelle van Oppen $20.00
Ashleigh Southam $20.00
Cesar Mendoza $15.00
Phuong-Ha Ngo $10.00
Jay OBalles $10.00
Erena Le Heron